"How Do I Find Love?"
Does not involve astrology, tea cups, your neighbourhood psychic .... in fact it doesn't involve luck at all. It's a matter of meeting a lot of people till we run accross that special person that turns the lights on.

For the preliminary "what's my initial gut reaction to this person" meeting, we don't need a six hour date. We do, however, need more that a six-second tape message - "Hi, I'm Ben, I'm five foot ten and enjoy food."
Whether it is online or newspaper personals, chatrooms or dating agency video-taped messages, make a list of those you want to respond to, but introduce your own "Tell me more about yourself" segment before any physical meeting. If possible, obtain an email address and/or a telephone number. Ask questions, engage in dialogue before any physical meeting.

Safety is the first obvious reason for this extra segment in the process. One recent study reports that 30 percent of those using internet dating sites, for example, are married. In addition, while those with a natural talent for sustaining a deception are in the minority, this minority is very active on the net.