How To Attract Emotionally Healthy People. Remember that all relationships, starting with our families and our professional associations, all the way to including our most intimate romantic relationships, always start with a basis of truth. Without truth at the core and bottom of our relationship pyramid we cannot create trust, and without trust there cannot be the essential respect, and then the love that will grow from that respect. Intimacy is the gift we get at the top of this hierarchy if we are willing to participate from the base of truth. Then and only then can we have a truly functional relationship that can continue to grow and expand in its intimacy.